I found myself holding off as I tried to get the wording just right. I wanted to give my daughter her truth, yet also wanted to protect her from the loss and pain of that truth. When I considered introducing the topic, the responsibility felt enormous. While the pre-adoptive training most of us receive emphasizes the need to talk about adoption and birth mothers, weaving in the birth father is often treated as a second layer, and thus we get very little advice, if any, on talking about birth siblings. And yet, many of us are underprepared to do so. A previous Adoptive Families survey found that 71 percent of adopted children have known birth siblings, and parents couldn’t rule out the possibility for another 14 percent. I’m hardly alone in needing to start this conversation. There was another subplot to my daughter’s adoption story-a narrative of siblings who were growing up elsewhere without their sister.
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